Our Marriage Journey.

I can truly say that God wanted the best marriage for us. We’ve been together for seven years, and all of this waiting was an answered prayer. He made sure our hearts were in sync and following Him. Before we got engaged, we weren’t even of the same religion—my husband just went with the flow and decided to follow my faith. But that’s not what I wanted. I wanted both of us to have our own personal relationship with the Lord, not just me pulling him along.

Funny enough, I didn’t realize that aside from the legal documents needed to get married, there were also church requirements I wasn’t aware of. I only went to church on Sundays and never asked about the process for getting married. One of the requirements was being an active member of a discipleship group (dgroup) for at least three months. By then, it had been over a year since I was last active in a dgroup, because I had moved out of the city. So, with a tight timeline, we had to join a couples’ dgroup consistently so that the church would allow us to marry. And it turned out to be the best decision of our lives! We met amazing people who have been helping our marriage stay strong to this day. It’s like free marriage counseling for life. In the group, we met couples who had been married for 2 years, 10 years, even 15 years! Having access to people with so much experience really broadened our perspective and helped us deal with situations in a way that aligns with biblical teachings.

That’s a whole blog topic on its own, but to sum it up, joining a dgroup changed our perspective and helped us align our hearts with God. My husband is now slowly building his own relationship with the Lord, and I couldn’t be happier for him! In such a short time, God helped us bond together even before we were married.

Another moment where I truly felt God’s goodness was on our wedding day. One unpredictable factor that we had no control over, despite everything else being set, was the weather. Since we were planning a garden ceremony, the weather became a big source of stress. A week before the wedding, the forecast predicted no rain during the ceremony. But the day before, it kept pouring down—not just light rain, but heavy, insane downpours! On the morning of the wedding, my husband had to make a decision by 10 a.m. about whether to go ahead with the garden ceremony or move it indoors. In my heart, I didn’t want to sacrifice my dream garden wedding just because of rain, but I also couldn’t let my friends and family, especially my grandparents, sit through it if it rained. I wanted them to happily witness the ceremony, not be soaked!

It was a tough decision for my husband. All of the decision-making on the wedding day was left to the groom to avoid stressing the bride, but he remembered our conversation the night before. We decided to give all our worries to the Lord and move forward with the garden ceremony—just an hour earlier than originally planned. I had faith that nothing would go wrong, trusting that it was a blessing to be married before the Lord. 

And amazingly, as I was about to do my bridal walk, the gray clouds parted, and the sky brightened up. It felt like a divine moment, with sunlight shining down on me as they revealed me for the walk—like I was standing in a spotlight! Thankfully, it was all captured on camera.